nvmet: add get_max_queue_size op for controllers

Some transports, such as RDMA, would like to set the queue size
according to device/port/ctrl characteristics. Add a new nvmet transport
op that is called during ctrl initialization. This will not effect
transports that don't implement this option.

Reviewed-by: Chaitanya Kulkarni <kch@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Max Gurtovoy <mgurtovoy@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>