thunderbolt: Align USB4 router wakes configuration with the CM guide

The USB4 Configuration Manager guide suggests that the USB4 port wakes
are configured in a certain way, like that when the port is configured
the wake-on-connect should not be set and so forth, so align the driver
with this.

Signed-off-by: Mika Westerberg <mika.westerberg@linux.intel.com>
Change-Id: I499a73822334bfeda7d9ba0e3d7df7f8bb3c099e