Inspired from iproute2. As such, don't use libnl3's "struct nl_msg", but
add _nl_addattr_l() and use a stack-allocated "struct nlmsghdr". With
this, we are closer to the raw netlink API. It really is simple enough.

The complicated part of the patch is that we re-use the existing netlink
socket for events. Hence, we must process the socket via our common
event_handler_recvmsgs(). That also means, that we get the netlink
response a few layers down the stack and have to return the result
via DelayedActionWaitForNlResponseData.