nle: Delay marking object as not in composition

Instead of doing it at the time of resetting `object->in_composition`
when user calls `gst_bin_remove` do it after we actually removed
it from the object thread, and do it in the `nle_object_reset`
method where it belongs

Fixes gstreamer/gst-editing-services#96
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