internals: Use Standard C offsetof macro if available
clang 13 fails to compile our current implementation with:
.../dbus/dbus-message.c:2070:3: error: variable length array folded to constant array as an extension [-Werror,-Wgnu-folding-constant]
_DBUS_STATIC_ASSERT (_DBUS_ALIGNOF (DBusMessageRealIter) <=
^
.../dbus/dbus-internals.h:460:25: note: expanded from macro '_DBUS_STATIC_ASSERT'
typedef struct { char _assertion[(expr) ? 1 : -1]; } \
This appears to be because the "traditional" definition of offsetof(), which we're hard-coding here, does not qualify as a constant expression under C rules due to its use of pointer casts.
Modern compilers like gcc and clang have a built-in implementation of offsetof that is a constant expression.
/cc @rhabacker @pwithnall